More is Caught Than Taught

“And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).

What can we do to protect our children? Remember this – “More is caught than taught.” The home is the schoolhouse of life. Studies have proven that the home produces 80% or more of the influences – good or bad – that will mold the life of a child. This is precisely why we must, as Christian parents, increase our involvement to influence our children with the truth of God’s Word and live in accordance with its teachings.

As a father, leadership and example will build the best defense for your children. I came across ten principles that work, and your children should observe them in action.

  1. Principle is more important than pleasure.
  2. Fact is more important than opinion.
  3. Learning is more important than education.
  4. Maturity is more important than growing up.
  5. Character is more important than reputation.
  6. Obedience is more important than sacrifice.
  7. Godliness is more important than success.
  8. Listening is more important than lectures.
  9. Love is more important than things.
  10. Example is more important than explanation.

We all want our children to turn out right. Every father wants to have a positive influence on his family. That goes without saying! But understand this: you cannot be a positive influence without loving and leading your family in the things of the Lord. And there is only one way to accomplish this — you lead by example. God’s Word says, “And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart [example]: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children [influence]…” (Deuteronomy 6:6-7a). We need to remember the old saying, “Actions speak louder than words.”

My father did not come to know the Lord until late in life, but he loved me and demonstrated that love even when he was unsaved. He did not know Christ as I was growing up, but he taught me love by example. My dad went to be with Christ seven years ago. Thanks for all you’ve done, Dad! I love you and miss you, but I’ll see you in heaven someday.